Friday, May 8, 2020

Patient 19 (Dad's dream come true)

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6927361/
Clinical spectrum of POLR3-related leukodystrophy caused by biallelic POLR1C pathogenic variants Laurence Gauquelin, et al.

The above link is a medical research paper that discusses the 23 known people who have the same affected gene as Cicily: POLR1C.  When we found out about this huge genetic news in November 2016 Chris hoped that Cicily would be "patient C" in a research study.  Three years later, his dream has been realized as Cicily has become patient 19!
Of course I read the whole paper and yes I actually understand most of it.  I do have a good amount of research under my belt on leukodystropy.  I realize most people reading this do not have that background knowledge or care to read a full article so I'll give bullets pertinent to Cicily.

Of note in the paper:

  • Cicily's picture is featured as the only photo.  Check it out @1/2 way in. 
  • Cicily is the only person of the 23 who has Treacher Collins Syndrome and white matter disease.  (Hence the photo.) 
  • 4 people have minor craniofacial differences (very minor similarities to Treacher Collins Syndrome). 
  • 13/23 people require the use of a wheelchair.
  • Cicily is the only person who ticked all boxes on the table of demographic, clinical data (things such as dystonia, myopia, abnormal dentition). 
  • 5 other known people (not included as the 23 patients in this study, but mentioned) have Treacher Collins Syndrome but no significant leukodystrophy (brain disease) involvement.  
Essentially it's just pretty shitty to be the worst of the worst.  When my source of sunshine was around it was easy to talk about things like this with her and find something for us both to smile about.  But I'm coming up short today, two days after we commemorate her death 3 years ago.  All I can say is Cicily wouldn't have been the same if she hadn't ticked all those boxes.  And she is amazing and lived a big happy life.    

We are so glad that these doctors are continuing to research POLR1C and its affects on people.  We are very happy to be in contact with these researchers and provide continuing data from Cicily's experience for them to publish. 

Sunday, February 4, 2018

Monument

 When my mate Islay was here from New Zealand for Cicily's funeral she mentioned this tradition over there of an unveiling for a new headstone.  The Maori tradition is that a year or so after a person dies, after the most deepest grieving is through, they have a gathering to reveal the person's memorial.  The more Chris and I thought about this tradition, the more we loved it and decided to do it for Cicily.  Except we put our tradition spin on it of getting a grave marker as soon as possible.  Cicily's monument was installed this weekend and today we had the unveiling.  We weren't really sure what one does at an unveiling, but my friend Mandy suggested polka dot heart sugar cookies which sounded perfect!  Here's some of the unveiling attendees.

 The monument in a drape.
 Sophie wanted to be the one to actually do the reveal.  Except she kinda loves keeping people in suspense and gets a little weird being at the center of attention.  So in the end she needed help from Maya who jumped in and claimed she was "the Force".  Together they removed the drape for the big reveal!  I'm sure Cicily was cracking up at both of her sisters in classic form.

And here it is! 
When Chris dedicated Cicily's grave, he said it would be a place of happiness and even laughter.  And it really is!  I cry and get sad tons of other times because I miss Cicily, but at the cemetery I almost always end up thinking of happy memories and feeling proud to be this girl's Mom.  

This is the back.  John 9:3 is Cicily's special scripture.  It's Jesus talking about the man who was born blind.  We believe that Cicily's mission on the earth was to make manifest the works of God and spread the light of Christ in the world.  
We wanted our family's names on the headstone so everyone would know who Cicily belonged to, but Maya thought it was a bit weird to have her name on a headstone.  I also really wished I could somehow acknowledge everyone who Cicily belongs to and who loves her.  So late one night, I had some inspiration and came up with the bottom portion.  "Many more" includes all of you who love Cicily and are more kind and loving because you know her.  And I have been so touched at all the people who have independently said thanks for including me on Cicily's headstone.
The roses are from our rose bush in the front of our house.  It feels so nice to grow something beautiful that I can leave at Cicily's spot. 

And the front.  (I'll have to get a better pic tomorrow morning in better light.)  
We think the memorial turned out absolutely perfect!  We really wanted it to represent Cicily: classic, beautiful, poignant, playful, and even silly.  Notice the hidden mickey mouse?  We like to think it's a joke Cis would crack up at!  The granite is almost a purple, Cicily's favorite color of course.  And POLKA DOTS!!!
We would like to give a salute to Pavel at Western Monument https://www.westernmonument.com/ for creating this beatiful memorial.  (And yes, he does create monuments for people out of state.)  Pavel is an artist and this is one way he has chosen to use his talents.  We talked with him a little about Cicily and together we came up with this beauty to remember her.  We thank you for making a work of art for Cicily's lasting memorial Pavel! 

Wednesday, November 29, 2017

Cicily's book


USES ADOBE FLASH.  FOR BEST VIEWING, USE A PC.  WAIT UNTIL BOOK LOADS AND THEN CLICK ON THE FULL SCREEN OPTION IN THE UPPER RIGHT CORNER.
If you don't have Adobe Flash, try this link: https://share.shutterfly.com/action/welcome?sid=0BasWTlu2as2E1&cid=SM-PBAPP
Create your own personalized photo books at Shutterfly.com.

Shutterfly gave us the most amazing gift when Cicily was on hospice.  They allowed us to make wonderful framed pictures, pillows, plates, canvas and jewelry with pictures of Cicily to fill our house with memories of our smiling girl.  They also gave us free photo books to share with her cousins.  So I made this book about Cicily for them to order.  I imagine it being read to her young cousins who weren't quite old enough to remember her in life or families reading together to reminisce.  And someday I'd like to read it to Cicily's future nieces and nephews so they can know all about their amazing aunt.  I know there are many more people who love her than just her family, so I wanted to share on here as well.  Forgive me if you are a special part of her life and are not included in the book as my focus was family for this project.  
Thank you so much Shutterfly for your legacy gift to us.  We will certainly be life-long customers and supporters of your great, compassionate company!  

Monday, July 24, 2017

With great gratitude

I wanted to put a shout out there to all the amazing people who have done something for our family while Cicily was sick and after she died.  
We have been the humble recipients of dinners, foot massages, homemade pillows, flowers, paintings, sculptures, and more.  Each and every gift and gesture of love and compassion has meant so much to us and truly lifted our heavy hearts.  Thank you, thank you to all who have blessed our lives these past months.  
We have most especially appreciated every one of you who has participated in the power of prayer on our behalf.  We cannot deny the immense power and comfort that your prayers have blessed us with.  There is no earthly reason that accounts for being filled with grief at not being able to make Cicily smile; but still being able to find joy in life.  I know the joy we've found is possible because of so many prayers and the Holy Ghost comforting our hearts.  And so many friends mourning with us and sending us love and positive thoughts.  It has been truly amazing to feel of the very real power of comfort from prayer and love.  
Thank you to you who have prayed for us.
Thank you to you who have shared gifts with us. 
Thank you to you who have fed us.
Thank you to you who have cried with us.
Thank you to you who have asked us about Cicily.
Thank you to you who have listened to us talk.
Thank you to you who have shared Cicily stories with us.
Your acts of love have carried us.  

Monday, July 17, 2017

Why we say "died" instead of "passed away"

We may sound a bit harsh or nonchalant when we talk about Cicily dying in our family.  There are reasons for this I'd like to explain.
A couple weeks after Cis died I was talking to Sophie and happened to say in the conversation "the night Cicily passed away".  Sophie looked at me with her perturbed/serious look and said, "you can just say died Mom.  Cicily's not past.  She just died is all." I had to agree with Sophie's logic.  Cicily dying is something we've known would happen and something we've always been very open about in our family.  To Sophie dying is just another part of life.  A new chapter.  It's doesn't mean someone is "past" or "away" so to speak, it just means they're in another life where unfortunately we don't get to hang out.  So while it may not sound as polite or graceful to say "died", in our family that's what we say.
A friend of ours left this on my FB wall.  I thought it perfectly captures our family's feelings.  It's by Henry Scott Holland .


We love talking about Cicily and love it when friends talk with us about her.  Especially when it's easy, with "no forced air of solemnity or sorrow".  It was a difficult task when she had recently died.  We had to have a family discussion about the more we talk about Cicily in every day conversation, the more normal it will feel.  
So while we all miss her a ridiculous amount, and I in particular cry daily about it, we still like to talk about her and think about her as we always have.  

Friday, June 9, 2017

Recording of Cicily's services of remembrance

We got the recording of Cicily's funeral yesterday.  It's just over an hour long.  An hour very well spent!  It's perfectly Cicily - upbeat, happy and inspiring.  I know you're doubting because it's a funeral.  But it was important for us to honor Cicily in the way that she lived with laughter and love.  Enjoy!
 

Saturday, May 13, 2017

Ray of sunshine

Cicily's farewell was absolutely beautiful today.  It was perfectly Cicily.  Thank you to all who came and helped make it perfect.  


 Drove past her body's resting place and took some pictures.  Check out that beautiful ray of sunshine.  Cicily is still spreading her light.